An Open Letter to My Single Friends

Dear Lovely Single Pals,

I apologize if I’ve been annoying at all lately.  I haven’t been myself.  Well, I’ve been myself.  But not the myself that I’m–or you–are used to.  I’ve been the “dating someone….oh, now I’m in a relationship all of a sudden” version of myself.  And I’m not used to this version.  I’d forgotten that this version was available to me, honestly….after being so well-versed in the “single” version of myself for nearly six whole years.

To my horror–and perhaps even yours, my single friends–I have turned into a woman that misses her boyfriend when she hasn’t seen him in a day or two.  I know!  I’m that person now!  It’s like it’s not enough that I’ve met a person I really like who really likes me…..I have to SEE HIM A LOT.

Also I want to apologize for something else I’m sure I’ve done in your presence recently.  (And if I haven’t, I’m bound to, so go ahead and take this apology in advance, as well).  You were probably telling me a really great story and after you finished talking, I greedily took over the conversation with some twitterpated story about how wonderful my guy is or–even more goobery–how wonderful he thinks I am…..

In addition, I should beseech your forgiveness, dear friends, for beginning more and more sentences with “We…..”  Please know that this is as much of a surprise to me as it is to you.  Also, know that I am not unaware of all of the times when you invite me to something, that I am more and more likely to ask if it’s okay if I bring a guest…..  Don’t be afraid to lead into an invite by saying something like, “So we’re going to have a LADIES’ night….”  I should still be able to take a hint.

I appreciate your patience with me while I’m updating to this new version.  The rest of me has gone unchanged.



PS:  Oh, but do know that I am really happy and that I’m not just so self-conscious about all of this stuff that I’m not able to enjoy the delight and excitement of new love.  If you are unconvinced, I can tell you some stories.  Like for example, the other night, he said the sweetest thing……..


12 thoughts on “An Open Letter to My Single Friends

  1. Dear Coupled Amanda,
    Since you have still refrained from hitting the “I’m so smug and of course you must be doing something wrong if you are single” stage – then you can be easily forgiven for you small blunders, since they are not of the variety that may come back to haunt you later.
    Your single friend

  2. It takes a lot of courage to write a letter like this, so I applaud you Amanda. If only my coupled up friends would be so insightful…

    I don’t personally know you but I am glad you haven’t changed who you really are. Kudos! And good luck with that plus one in your life. ^^

  3. I read the comment string, and now I have that song in my head too! Ahhh! But before my brain was hijacked, wanted to say that it’s awesome you are happy! Your single friends will get their turns 🙂

  4. Yay! This gives me hope, at times it seems COMPLETELY HOPELESS to meet someone. OKcupid? How many guys did you have to date before you found THE ONE? I find each one exhausting…

  5. Yes, it was OKC. And hoo-boy, dating WAS exhausting. In fact, my first one-woman show was all about dating and being single and the ups and downs! But it was all worth it, to find out what I TRULY wanted. 🙂 Good luck to you, K!

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